These are genuine statements written by current students at Selston High School. Many of them refer to primary school experiences as well as those at Selston High School.
These statements can be used to help people who have been involved in bullying someone else understand the impact of their actions or to help a victim of bullying realise they are not alone.
Selston High School encourages parents, teachers and others working with young people to read these victim impact statements and discuss them as learning opportunities.
“When I was bullied I felt low in mood and low in confidence. When I told my parents after a while they helped and began to get me help. If you are getting bullied you should tell someone. Don’t keep it inside. Tell someone you trust and know so they can sort things out for you.”
“I was bullied because of my weight and because of the colour of my hair. It made me feel sad and lonely like I had no friends. I didn’t want to speak to family members. I would always isolate myself in my room. People used to call me a fire ball and insult me about my hair (for example gingers have no souls) it used to really hurt me. The insults got so bad I started to miss meals and go on multiple diets.”
“Bullying makes me feel isolated from other students and my friends. This really makes me ashamed about the way I look because of my disability. This then leads to family wanting to find out, questioning me and being upset. I end up saying “I’m fine” to hide the truth and stop them questioning me because I don’t want them upset as well.”
“I was bullied because of my disability, my weight and my sexuality. It got so bad I was thinking of moving school or even something more drastic. Once I reported it to my tutor I began to feel a bit better as things started to change. It didn’t get better immediately but now hardly anyone ever says anything unpleasant to me and I enjoy school much more.”
“I want those boys to understand the effects the hurtful and disrespectful things they say have. It has got to the point where I don’t want to come to school in the morning. I’m risking my education because I’m worried about the next thing they will say. I’m so stressed that I don’t want to eat or I over eat. I sit there and cry at night hoping I don’ have to go to school in the morning. It affects my learning. How can I concentrate on my learning when I am constantly worrying about bumping into one of you in the corridor. They may me feel worthless, stupid, ugly and lonely. I’m miserable at home and it is now affecting my family and that is not fair. It stops me making new friends as people avoid me because they think I am trouble.”